Pheww nearly slapped an ignorant black lady in her face last Monday following her rude comment about my afro hair, but my goodness something within me said calm down and just walk away from this confused sister. Monday morning was heading to the office, already in a bad mood just like most people including myself hates Mondays, I was stopped by an African lady as I can tell from her accent, she parked and said she was selling Brazillian , Peru and Cambodian hair in her car boot. The lady said “beautiful girl like you should not walk around with an Afro hair as it makes you look very ethnic”. The lady further tried to convince me that her prices are very reasonable with 50% discount. Now before I continue, all I knew was Brazillian hair, never heard of Peru or Cambodian, or am I just late and not up to date with life? I found this lady very annoying and rude for making such statement. Trying to reflect back from when I started my natural hair journey I have actually put up with alot of abuse and negativity about my hair, the most recent one i thought was very funny and rude was when I was strolling throw Makola market in Accra Ghana during the summer holidays, a man selling clothes shouted out “lady, lady lady come and buy jeans I ignored him and the next thing that he said was Afro sister, lady with big hair and the worst he caled me was Don king’s wife” . I was not sure whether to laugh or cry, bloody hell “Don Kings Wife” honestly I knew he was trying to say that I look like Don King. Anyway the lady apologise but it got me thinking why in today’s society some people do not embrace natural hair anymore. I just need to clarify this that Brazillian/Peru or Cambodian hair weaves does look nice when worn but it is not something I will personally go out of my way to spend hundreds of pounds on which is a personal choice.
Anyway, for those who might not know or have seen my hair before, I did the big chop chop just over 18months ago after relaxing my hair for over ten years. I decided to go natural purely because I was fed up with relaxing my damn hair, it was the same old story everytime I left the hair salon it was just getting boring so I decide to go natural. Now, the first time I told my hair stylist that I was thinking of going natural she was in utter shock, she tried to convince me to stop as it was hard work and that I can never dress up and look elegant. Yes the first part she said was right it is hard work to manage natural hair but the latter I disagree as there are so many Afro hairstyles that can make you look elegant. I have always been asked what products I use to make my hair grow so quickly is just two brands that I cannot live without, for my roots I use T444Z hair food for my scalp and I moisturize daily with Bee Mine Products and believe me I am hooked.
To all the Naturalista’s out there share your hair stories here and oh check out Malcolm X video here love it
“Who taught you to hate the color of your skin? Who taught you to hate the texture of your hair? Who taught you to hate the shape of your nose and the shape of your lips? Who taught you to hate yourself from the top of your head to the soles of your feet? Who taught you to hate your own kind? Who taught you to hate the race that you belong to so much so that you don’t want to be around each other? Who taught you to hate being what God made you.”